“I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship. I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings. My wisdom flows from the Highest Source. I salute that Source in you. Let us work together for unity and love.” ~ Gandhi
It’s just 8 weeks now until I get married and it’s been interesting to take some time as I prepare vows, speeches and final touches for our big day, to reflect on what love means to me and the way it can shape our lives and choices as human beings.
We are ultimately all programmed to love and be loved. But how do we clearly express ourselves and articulate our affection when love is such a heartfelt emotion…
What does it feel like to love? What does it sound like to love? What does it look like to love?
Love feels like unity (to yolk or bring together). When we find ourselves alone, troubled or isolated, it is love that brings us back to a place of belonging. The spice girls were right when they sang ‘when two become one’. It is love that makes us feel the security of home, but at the same time the freedom unbounded travel. I like to think of it as the highest of all emotions- powerful enough to shift hatred, to penetrate jealousy and to break down the barriers of difference. When we give our love we create an electromagnetic field that can be felt by those around us. This field reaches their hearts, is detected by their mind and felt by their entire body. Feelings of a calm and deep contentment arise in both us and them. The lingering warmth peace is like a bath in which we both soak.
Love looks like selflessness. It is finding capacity for compromise and a living breathing example of democracy. To give love is to put the representation of your own wishes aside, hear the needs of another and meet those needs with compassion and kindness. Instead of needing to be heard it is about being able to listen. Instead of seeking pleasure it is about giving pleasure. It is about learning the intricacies of another human being and using that knowledge to make their life easier and more enjoyable. Like any good sports team love is having roles you are good at and recognising when to pass the ball for someone else to score the goal. It is life in a team, where no-one is the captain and the game your playing changes all the time.
Love sounds like laughter. It is lighting someone else up and seeing joy emanate from their smile. It is the sound of everlasting please and thank you’s. It is the quirky mannerisms and sayings you share, the pet names and cheeky insults that you issue in moments of frustration. It is the sound of coffee beans being ground in the morning only to find a fresh brew pre-poured for you.
Love is the way.
If you have found it – express your gratitude for it everyday.
If you are still looking – enjoy the search.